I'm a licensed psychotherapist in S. Califo ia, with 25 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 11 books, including Gay Relationships: How to Find Them, How To Improve Them, How to Make Them Last (Tarcher/Putnam 2003) "It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction" (New Page 2003;)" "How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free"(New Page 2002;) and "The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again"(Wiley 2002;) I also publish an e-mail newsletter: "Happiness Tips from Tina" and host a weekly hour long radio show:"The Psyche Deli: delectable tidbits for the subconscious" on WPMD.org and LeisureTalk.net. I am an online expert, answering questions at www.CouplesCompany.com and Yahoo!PersonalsTell them DiversityBuilder referred you.